My Writing Process

Sexologist Vixenne

1. What am I working on?

In terms of blogging and sex toy reviewing: I have several items I’ve received for review. At the time of answering these questions I have had one go around each with two toys and have yet another that needs to be tried. I am also planning on putting out at least a couple posts for Masturbation May, which I am super excited about!

But I do more than blog and try out sex toys! I am a sexological bodyworker! I work with clients to go deeper in exploring their pleasure potentials using conscious breath, movement, sound, and touch.

2. How does my work differ from others of its genre?

There are so many amazing sex bloggers and toy reviewers! And they all come at it from a different angle! (Pun probably intended.) I strive to infuse all my writing, reviewing, and sex education of any kind with knowledge I’ve gained from becoming a sexologist. People have been doing what they want to do sexually since they first figured out how to do it! As long as it (whatever “it” is) is with consenting human adults and is being done as knowledgeably and safely as possible, it isn’t my job to pass judgement.

3. Why do I write what I do?

I write what I do because I love it! I love getting feedback, seeing it shared, and knowing that I gave someone permission and information around sexuality, pleasure, body image, identity, and so on.

4. How does your writing process work?

“Process” is a strong word. I think I work best when I set a deadline for myself. This can be challenging as I am somewhat easily distracted. Thanks Internet! When I am working on reviews, trying out a product, I take some notes about the experience  – sometimes during, sometimes after. (Sometimes I’ll tweet about it. You may have noticed.) Eventually I’ll sit down and compose the whole review and put together photos of the item. Sometimes I will do it slowly and other times I will write in one hours-long sit down session. There might be a correlation to how much I enjoyed a product, but I haven’t figured out the exact connection yet.

Other kinds of writing may need some research and marinating. Those run the gamut of being written really quickly or dragging on forever.


A great big shout out and thanks to Mr. Will for tapping me to write a post like this. I am also inviting a couple others to share their processes.

Elle Chase

Dr. Gayle Friend

Dr. Megan Stubbs

Nadine Thornhill

If you have been tagged, and if you feel called to it, please consider also doing a similar post about your process answering the above questions and tagging others in related fields!

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