Sexologist Vixenne’s First Time to CatalystCon

Catalyst Con
March 22, 2014

I’d actually heard of CatalystCon what feels like a couple of years ago, but for various reasons had been unable to attend one until now. Illness or conflicting schedules meant I had to put it off. The funny thing is, I’ve been going to events in the local sex positive community like Bawdy Storytelling and others and upon introducing myself to people I would often hear the line, “Didn’t we meet at…


Switch Things Up! Keep It Fresh! (Masturbation May)

Fortune from a Cookie - "It is impossible to please everybody. Please yourself first."
May 1, 2013

Has it been a whole year already? Masturbation month has finally rolled back around! So let’s challenge ourselves to do a whole month of masturbation practice! I’m totally serious! Whether you are partnered – monogamous or polyamorous, or living the single life by choice or circumstance, everyone can benefit from masturbation. It is a great reliever of stress; Masturbation is a way to wake up or get relaxed; It’s a…


Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

March 20, 2013

SEX. It’s a three letter word. It’s a weighty word, for sure. It has so many different meanings for different people. Those of us of a certain age know all too well the infamous comment President Clinton said in the ’90s, “I did not have sexual relations with that woman.” For a time, this sparked a discussion about what “sex” is. Guess what? I’m bringing the conversation back! Well, what…


Online Dating

January 28, 2013

Let’s face it. It’s 2013. If by now you personally have not been involved in online dating, chances are pretty dang high that you know someone who has. So, what’s the deal with online dating? In our busy lives we still yearn and long for a person to person connection. But it can be intimidating to go up to a relative stranger and just strike up a conversation. One of…


Sex and Gender

July 10, 2012

Growing up and living in a hetero-centric society, many people, especially those who identify as heterosexual (straight) and whose gender matches their born sex, never spend any time questioning or pondering their sexual orientation or their gender. It can be challenging to imagine other experiences if we cannot relate to them. As always when perusing my blog, I wish for my readers to step back from their own experiences and…


Who Are You Sexually?

Gender Unicorn TSER Trans Student Educational Resources
June 13, 2012

EDIT April 30, 2017: I’ve been meaning to do this edit/note for a while now, but it kept slipping off my radar since this is an older post. The Genderbread Person is highly problematic. You can read more about that here. I have replaced that with the Gender Unicorn which is way cuter and more expansive anyway. This question came to me during my first class back at the Institute this trimester. It…


Masturbation May Should Be Every Day!

May 10, 2012

Masturbation has an interesting history. I won’t go into all the nitty-gritty sex-negative messages that have been perpetuated throughout time. Despite the amount of  mis-information that’s out there about masturbation, as a society we have come a long way. In the late 19th- and early 20th-centuries, self-pleasure was something insane people did. Much of the “research” from that time period on masturbation came from people who were institutionalized. (Obviously, those…


Consent (Teens and BDSM)

Yes Means Yes
April 13, 2012

    Several events both recently and not so recently have led me to this topic. I’ll start with the not so recent and you’ll forgive me, but I won’t go into too much detail, for the simple facts that: a) this was at least a decade ago for me, b) it really wasn’t that big a deal, and c) there are many much worse stories out there. When I was a…


Condoms and Teens

Rainbow of Condoms
March 27, 2012

This post was inspired by my seventeen year old sister. I’ve been very open with her about sex and sexuality for a while now. She’s having a very different experience than I did at her age. When I was a teen, I had no actual experience; all the knowledge I had about sex and sexuality was gleaned from books and side glances at the sexually explicit themes that surround my neighborhood in…



March 16, 2012

New Relationship Energy is a phrase commonly heard in polyamorous relationships. It is a concept I first heard about a few years ago on the Sex is Fun podcast (episodes 191 and 192, for those who are interested). NRE is a bubbly kind of feeling that can happen when two (or more) people experience something new together. While these feelings are often related to new sexual encounters, they could be more…