Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

March 20, 2013

SEX. It’s a three letter word. It’s a weighty word, for sure. It has so many different meanings for different people. Those of us of a certain age know all too well the infamous comment President Clinton said in the ’90s, “I did not have sexual relations with that woman.” For a time, this sparked a discussion about what “sex” is. Guess what? I’m bringing the conversation back! Well, what…


Anal Play: Butt Sex Basics

Lube for Anal Play at Good Vibrations
January 1, 2013

What is your first reaction when you think of Anal Sex? Despite still being considered taboo by many, anal sex is becoming quite a common sexual activity. It’s becoming quite popular in mainstream porn. Anal play is still surrounded by some negativity and misconceptions. It’s not unusual for straight men to be concerned that any interest in engaging in the receiving side of anal pleasure, let alone actually doing it,…


Who Are You Sexually?

Gender Unicorn TSER Trans Student Educational Resources
June 13, 2012

EDIT April 30, 2017: I’ve been meaning to do this edit/note for a while now, but it kept slipping off my radar since this is an older post. The Genderbread Person is highly problematic. You can read more about that here. I have replaced that with the Gender Unicorn which is way cuter and more expansive anyway. This question came to me during my first class back at the Institute this trimester. It…


Masturbation May Should Be Every Day!

May 10, 2012

Masturbation has an interesting history. I won’t go into all the nitty-gritty sex-negative messages that have been perpetuated throughout time. Despite the amount of  mis-information that’s out there about masturbation, as a society we have come a long way. In the late 19th- and early 20th-centuries, self-pleasure was something insane people did. Much of the “research” from that time period on masturbation came from people who were institutionalized. (Obviously, those…


Consent (Teens and BDSM)

Yes Means Yes
April 13, 2012

    Several events both recently and not so recently have led me to this topic. I’ll start with the not so recent and you’ll forgive me, but I won’t go into too much detail, for the simple facts that: a) this was at least a decade ago for me, b) it really wasn’t that big a deal, and c) there are many much worse stories out there. When I was a…


Condoms and Teens

Rainbow of Condoms
March 27, 2012

This post was inspired by my seventeen year old sister. I’ve been very open with her about sex and sexuality for a while now. She’s having a very different experience than I did at her age. When I was a teen, I had no actual experience; all the knowledge I had about sex and sexuality was gleaned from books and side glances at the sexually explicit themes that surround my neighborhood in…



March 16, 2012

New Relationship Energy is a phrase commonly heard in polyamorous relationships. It is a concept I first heard about a few years ago on the Sex is Fun podcast (episodes 191 and 192, for those who are interested). NRE is a bubbly kind of feeling that can happen when two (or more) people experience something new together. While these feelings are often related to new sexual encounters, they could be more…


Sexology: What it is, why we need more of this, and why this is my calling

Sexology is the scientific study of human sexual behavior, how people think and feel about it, and the impact on the self and others. Sexology uses information from many fields including psychology, history, medicine, and others. People who have a background in sexology can branch out into a variety of fields including but not limited to therapy, education, advocacy, and even art. Unfortunately, in our current day and age, information…

March 7, 2012