A Lesson in Permission-giving: Or what happened when I didn’t want to masturbate

legs and arms crossed over pelvis
October 29, 2013

[You’re in for a treat, dear readers – this one has quite a bit of self disclosure.] People who know me, know that I LOVE masturbation. My blog readers may have even sensed a theme — it’s a topic I’ve written a lot about. I even have a list of my favorite things.  If it’s possible for self pleasuring to be part of one’s core beliefs then it is definitely one of mine….

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Online Dating

January 28, 2013

Let’s face it. It’s 2013. If by now you personally have not been involved in online dating, chances are pretty dang high that you know someone who has. So, what’s the deal with online dating? In our busy lives we still yearn and long for a person to person connection. But it can be intimidating to go up to a relative stranger and just strike up a conversation. One of…

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Open Relationships

November 5, 2012

There are so many different kinds of  Open Relationships.  Polyamory. Swingers. Soft swap. Threesomes. Foursomes. Group Sex. Polygyny. Polyandry. Polyfidelity. Non-monogamy. I’m talking about consensual non-monogamy here, NOT having sex with someone other than the partner you are monogamous with (i.e. cheating). So what are all those words I wrote up above? Here is some general information (keep in mind that these might vary depending on the person or couple): Polyamory –…

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Who Are You Sexually?

June 13, 2012

This question came to me during my first class back at the Institute this trimester. It was during a conversation I had in my class of one (yes, small class). John Bilorusky, President at the Western Institute for Social Research – WISR, was my professor for a class on research methods. Since I am not one who plans to do much in the way of research, we ended up discussing…

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Masturbation May Should Be Every Day!

Self-Pleasuring
May 10, 2012

Masturbation has an interesting history. I won’t go into all the nitty-gritty sex-negative messages that have been perpetuated throughout time. Despite the amount of  mis-information that’s out there about masturbation, as a society we have come a long way. In the late 19th- and early 20th-centuries, self-pleasure was something insane people did. Much of the “research” from that time period on masturbation came from people who were institutionalized. (Obviously, those…

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Making Sex More Fun: Toys

April 30, 2012

In an effort to share some of what I learned and observed while I was at the  Quad S Western Region conference this April (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality), I wanted to talk about what can spice up sex. This post is going to be about Sex Toys. There were a couple sponsors who were at the conference: Fun Factory and We-Vibe. These are both high quality, top shelf…

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Consent (Teens and BDSM)

Yes Means Yes
April 13, 2012

    Several events both recently and not so recently have led me to this topic. I’ll start with the not so recent and you’ll forgive me, but I won’t go into too much detail, for the simple facts that: a) this was at least a decade ago for me, b) it really wasn’t that big a deal, and c) there are many much worse stories out there. When I was a…

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NRE

March 16, 2012

New Relationship Energy is a phrase commonly heard in polyamorous relationships. It is a concept I first heard about a few years ago on the Sex is Fun podcast (episodes 191 and 192, for those who are interested). NRE is a bubbly kind of feeling that can happen when two (or more) people experience something new together. While these feelings are often related to new sexual encounters, they could be more…

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