For the second year in a row, I kept track of my orgasms. Unfortunately my brilliant ideas from 2014 were not implemented, like keeping track of the exact ways I had orgasms or which days specifically. I did start to keep track in that way, but I got sidetracked and lazy.
An Orgasm A Day…Sort of
I use the notes function on my iphone and I organize them by week. Sometimes I’ll add in an extra note like “ejac” to note if I ejaculated, or initials of a toy that I tried that was involved in me getting off, but for the most part I enter how many times I had an orgasm within my waking day.
Again, as in 2014, there are several weeks with around one orgasm a day. And then there was the ominous (not that ominous, really) week where I had to write in a big, fat zero because I hadn’t masturbated for a whole week. Strangely, I felt like I should feel bad, or shame about this, but I didn’t really have any of those feelings… Which vaguely made me feel worse.
The thing is, desire fluctuates. Illness happens. Depression happens. Wacky sleep cycles and busy work days are huge contributors to how sexy or sensual we feel. To some extent lack of steady partner can be a factor, too.
So, what’s the point of this again?
What seems to be the point (for me) of keeping some kind of track of having orgasms is vaguely looking for patterns. All of this is fine and dandy, but obviously orgasms aren’t everything. I didn’t note how many times I participated in the orgasmic yoga circles I’ve facilitated last year. I had four OY circles and I did not have orgasms in every one.
Also, it’s for my own edification. My intention is not to compare to another person and how many orgasms or how much sex they have. How is that helpful to anyone? Keeping track is a way to look at the year before, and contrast that to the one before that. It’s a way to see whether I can spot similarities. It’s so I can learn about myself.
I had fewer orgasms in 2015 than I did in 2014. When I added it up, it was surprising in some ways and not at all in others. From January 1, 2015 to December 31, 2015 I had 201 orgasms which is 53 fewer than the year before. 2015 was a weird, challenging year with a lot of ups and some deep downs. So it’s no wonder that it wasn’t Ohs every day.
What do I do with this info?
I’ll keep on keeping on. Honoring myself, taking care of myself. Listening to my needs and wants. I want to set more intentions. I want to do lots more Orgasmic Yoga (which I will be doing). I’m turning 29 in 5 days. The last year in my twenties. I’m feeling like it’s less about having all the sex with all people and much more about figuring out who I am, what I need, what I want, how to communicate, and how to make space for all of those things to manifest.